Decision Making

Do I really need God in this? Many a time such a question raises up in our mind when it comes to making decision in choosing a life partner, especially when one is been grossly infatuated, or to say in a relative : to fall in love.We stand to classify and make judgments based on this theme of the holly woods - what a real woman or man is like. These opinions are basically an obsession of a creative mind working behind the scene, feeding us with the information he or she thinks the world should look like, recreating our world by his or her inspired imagination. We live in the world of the media today, we can not do without it. Turn on your TV; tune on your radio, flip through the pages of a magazine; peruse through the new paper; search on the internet, we are bombarded with information that are real, as well, sometimes are  fabricated. So if the trueness of the information is scaled on the balance, and, or our decisions are based on these, can we be hundred percent guaranteed that acting on the information would lead us to a destined direction? Think about it! In the advent of this there has been more unstable marriages. More contracted marriages. Many homes has been swept off by today's phenomenon. Why? Let's take a look t this.       In the cool of an evening, barely five months after Jane and Dan got wedded, the atmosphere was colored blue as they both fell in a sofa caressing and muttering romantic words. For minutes, they were lost to their world (environment). In a slight jerk, Dan voiced sonorously, can I have a minute? He reluctantly took a magazine, whispered,” Jane, I will love to request this of you. Before now, I always travel in imagination of what a beautiful world I want to live, but it’s incomplete without this.” Pointing to the model on the front page. Can you make yourself look like this? “Jane turned pale. “ I am dark skin, she is fair; I am plum, she is thin; I have black hair, she is a blond, how do I make up the differences? Moreover she is in the best  state of her self as the office. “Dan yelled, dermatologist can help you do that .“ The romantic momentum slopped, the once brightened moment gloom ed, they both separated to different rooms. – This is just one of the numerous effects ways challenges in representing the gender through media”. Pause a while, before we continue, let’s explain in detail the meaning of this two keywords - “Gender” and “Media”. Sometimes it is hard to understand what is meant by the term “gender” as opinions varies in societies, and how it differs from the closely related term “sex”. “Sex” refers to the biological and physiological characteristics that define men and women. The various sexual organs of the body that makes them function distinctively. What a man can do a woman can not do, what a woman can do a man can not do. “Gender” refers to the socially constructs roles, behaviors, and activities and attributes that a society considers as appropriate for men and women. To put it in another way, “Male” and “Female” are sex categories while “Masculine” and “Feminine” are gender categories. Aspect of sex may or vary substantially between different human societies, while this may greatly vary when it comes to gender.  The media has been a medium of forming and framing opinions, norms, fads, beliefs, consciously or unconsciously for the race. It reaches far and to every nook and cranny of human society. Either in your private home or in the office. The human mind is highly porous and eventually susceptible to consistent bombarding information. Our thought, our minds and desires going further to give in detail the height, size, smile, gorgeousness; or a pretty lady. We have all buy into the media and concepts of the media, thereby forming our opinion on this “their- idea” which in far-fetched from the reality. And my initiation remains not to be biased on this issue.  The media is a two-edged sword, it has its pros and  cons," break the rules in get hurt. Then you ask, am i beautiful? Am i handsome? Before these questions are answered, what truly is beauty? How do we measure to find a true beauty? What does a real man or woman looks for in a partner?  What are the attractive points makes a man tied to the skirt of a woman? What makes a man create a lasting impression in a woman? These and many more question when answered can help us navigate in the right direction getting a life partner.      Firstly, God doesn't do anything without a blueprint, He modeled you after Himself, and he considers you beautiful - "..and God considered his work and all were good." Want to know the values that makes one a real  woman or man? I would implore you to this book of the bible Proverbs 31:10-31.

Constructive criticism

CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM

This is the dawn of a new day. Normal day to day hustling?  Keep the track, jump the huddles, though it strains, be focused, the latter days shall better than the former. Daily the tone of success rings in our mind, making us to strive for productivity - a tangible means to achieve success. There is no way we can talk about this without talking about excellence, as many glossy product are there in the market flashing “buy me” to market bystanders and real buyers. And the question comes, how do I break even? How do I stand out in this competitive world? It takes the right application of information of a well informed mind to package a good product for the mass society demand -“By wisdom a house is built, by understanding the rooms are divided”.

                Excellence is compound word that has many derivatives, one of which is constructive criticism. What does this mean? Relax on your sofa as we instinctively follow it step by step. Have you ever attempted doing something new? Doing something different from your normal vocation? If yes, how successful is it? In either ways, comments had been run on your new attempt which is either depressing or encouraging. Many who break you up by their comment did it out of a cheer wish to tell of what need done to improve without employing the instinct - constructive criticism. Criticism is the art of analyzing, spoken or written opinion or judgment of what is bad or wrong in somebody or something. Constructive means “carefully considered to be helpful.” A constructive critic is an analytical mind who refuses to see an attempt made on the part of failure but always suggesting possible ways of improvement. Consider these two statements made by two friends of a young chap after his second unsuccessful attempt to get his business structured – “You failed again!”  “Do not be discouraged you have become a master to those that have not tried at all.” The second statement only portrays only a minute part in the mind of Jesus Christ, never hopeless in any situation, always making a way out, making us understand that there is blessing in temporal failure.”… Though it linger wait for it, it will certainly come and not delay.” – Habakkuk 2:3.